Humans seek pleasure all the time. After smart phones were invented, it was so easy for us to get pleasure from cellphones. All the social media, streaming media, and mobile games are grabbing our attention, and we just can’t resist the temptation.
Pleasure comes so easily that we can’t tolerate “boredom” anymore. We require that stimulation from our cellphones at all times. There’s consequence. Even when we try to stay focused on our work, it is becoming increasingly difficult. How can we get our focus back? The following are the simplest treatments you can take every day:
Treatment 1: Eat
Having meals was one of the joyful things to do in our lives, but before long it was completely forgotten. We need to look at our cellphones or televisions when eating, or we might feel uncomfortable facing our food. The first thing we can do to regain our focus is to practice mindful eating. By focusing on our food, we are practicing controlling our focus.
Treatment 2: Walk
When you go outside and walk around town, how many people are using their cellphones while walking? quite a lot, right? They are not paying attention to themselves or their surroundings. Their spirits are not where they should be. Those are called “zombies” for me. Paying attention to the physical motion of walking allows you to train your ability to stay focused. As you move, one step at a time, try to keep your awareness in the present moment.
Treatment 3: Talk
This is the only treatment associated with others. In the past, people got together to chat with each other. However, the convenience of social media makes it totally different. We can talk to others whenever we want now. We don’t have to talk face-to-face. We don’t have to pay attention to others’ body language anymore.
In a conversation, more than 70% of information is conveyed through body language. Without these, our conversation becomes shallow and boring. Have you found that it’s much more difficult to make good friends now? Maybe it’s because we are always using our cellphones to chat with others, even when we are talking to someone right in front of us.
Try to stay focused on others next time during conversation. Pay attention to their facial expression, their body movement, and even the tone of their words. You will not only get your focus back but also make more friends if you just stay focused. Trust me.
Treatment 4: Using cellphones and computers properly
In the above content, we’ve mentioned how bad our cellphones are, saying that they are the devils who imprison our attention. Well, they really do, but we can’t just look at how bad they are and ignore the convenience they bring to us. What we have to learn is not how to abandon them, but how to control them.
Have you ever found yourself wasting too much time on your phone before realizing you haven’t accomplished what you set out to do when you first picked up your phone? It was dubbed a “phone maze” by me. The apps on the screen and the notifications popping out are distracting us all the time. There are two methods we can use to prevent being missed in the maze.
Think about what you’re going to do before picking up the phone.
For example, if you’re going to book a restaurant and tell your friends the time of the dinner, tell yourself, “I won’t press any apps or notifications before I finish booking and sending messages.”
Do only one thing at a time.
It’s so easy to switch between different apps on smart phones right now. We can’t stand to wait when the app is loading, so we jump to another app, and the other one, and the other one. Time has flown by so quickly until we realize we haven’t done what we should have done first.Try to stay on the same app and focus on your mission next time.
Implement these two methods into your life, and you’ll discover that you have a lot more time to do the things you enjoy.Those times were lost in the maze previously.
In the following articles, we will introduce the other three treatments that you can do in your daily life, as well as the 7×7 methods for implementing them.